If 2013 was hard, I tell ya, 2014 was a lot harder. At the beginning, I had new goals and was pretty determined to achieve them – until I encountered some glitches here and there and then found my life in chaos. The single, straight path I was traipsing along suddenly became a forked road. I found myself confused. Lost and in a panic, I took the road less traveled. At least for someone like me.
Now that 2014 is coming to an end, I can say that I am on my way out as well. It wasn’t easy, anyone who have been on a rough patch can attest to that. Lessons were learned the bittersweet way. I am sharing them here to remind myself of the time where I doubted my own capabilities, lost track of God’s purpose for me but then got back up and gracefully bounced out of the pit I was trapped in. Some may disagree with them and some may have mastered them already. Either way, these are lessons that helped and will help me as I go through this God-given gift called life.
There is no such thing as a wrong choice.
Sometimes, you make good choices and maybe most of the time, you make really bad ones, but good or bad they are exactly right for you. A bad choice doesn’t exactly mean that it is wrong. It is just a matter of how you put it into perspective. Say, you chose a red dress over a black one to wear to a black and white themed party – yes, it is not appropriate for that time but the red dress is not at all a wrong choice because you can still wear it to other occasions (and no, you are not stupid for doing so. You just overlooked that “black and white theme” detail. It happens, right?). A bad choice is only bad for a particular time but not entirely wrong for the duration of your life. We just have to remember that we are born resilient and learn to find the good in the bad. After all, God will not present us with choices that are not meant for us. He has a plan for every choice we make. We just have to keep our faith and trust that we are always in His good hands.
Life is tough without people you can trust.
The 200+ friends I had when I was younger is now down to not even a quarter of it. We all have friends but admit it, not all of them we completely trust. There are friends for good times, there are friends for coffee dates, there are friends for shopping sprees, and then there are those that we can practically call family. I realized that each difficult time I faced, I ran to the same people over and over for comfort. They are those precious few people that I can share every thought with and not receive any judgment or not make me feel I should give anything in return. They make every hardship almost easy to bear and my life almost easy to live effortlessly. They are the people that I can trust my whole life with. Not in the sense that they will willingly take a bullet for me, but in the sense that I will fear no bullet because they make me feel that God never leaves my side through their presence.
The key to a splendid life is to live a simple one.
They say, money can buy happiness if you know where to shop. I say, money can buy happiness that comes with an expiration date. Eternal happiness can’t be bought because it doesn’t come fancily wrapped and with a price tag. It is the priceless little moments we tend to overlook because we are busy chasing after the “happy life”. I know it is only human nature that we not let ourselves get left behind with the fast pace of our modern world. But, I think it is also in our nature to take a pause, breathe and reflect on what was really important. As for me, to live a simple life that is surrounded by my loved ones is the most vital; and to be able to go on with this in mind, I am sure I can achieve far more greater things that God has planned for me.